There's Always a Solution for Age Gap Relationships, Find it Through #SpeakUpForLove!

Kapanlagi.com - Having an age difference in a relationship indeed has its own challenges. Starting from doubts that may arise within oneself, to negative opinions from people around. However, it doesn't mean there's no solution to overcome it. Interestingly, the concept of 3B or Bibit Bebet Bobot, which we often hear, especially from parents, can be used as a solution.

Don't be mistaken, even though times keep changing, the concept of 3B is still relevant to apply until now. You can even use it as a 'filter' to determine the right type of partner. This also applies to finding a solution to the age difference relationship you're currently in. Who knows, by applying this 3B concept, the harmonious relationship that you've been dreaming of can be realized together. Curious about how to do it?

Here are some tips that you can consider.

Understand the Differences in Background as Bibit Criteria

The first thing that needs to be understood in a relationship is to align the differences between each other, including age differences. This is related to the Bibit criteria that are closely related to origin or lineage. It's not always about having a blue-blooded lineage, but it's important to still see where they come from, and how and by whom they were educated. Because all of these things will determine each other's character and personality. However, parents' character traits usually have the potential to be passed down to their children. If this can be understood by both parties, then any problems that arise can be solved or dealt with calmly. In an age difference relationship, this point is very important so that no one feels more knowledgeable, or conversely, feels dominated.

Personality Also Must Be Aligned as Bebet Manifestation

Before aligning views together, it's good to get to know each other's personality more deeply. The important point to note regardless of age is the manifestation of the Bebet criteria.

If in the past, personality was often described through appearance such as dressing style and social status, nowadays it can be seen from each person's character.

In general, human personalities are divided into four types, namely sanguine, melancholic, phlegmatic, and choleric. Sanguine is identified with an optimistic, enthusiastic, sociable, attention-seeking, and dominating personality. On the other hand, people with melancholic personality tend to be thinkers, less fond of crowds, caring about their surroundings, detail-oriented, and perfectionists. However, they are prone to worry.

Meanwhile, phlegmatic people tend to prefer peace, do not take sides, but like to help others. People with this personality type are often good listeners and humorous. Choleric, on the other hand, is known for being intelligent, often prioritizing logic, strong-willed, and good at making the right decisions. Unfortunately, people with this personality are also known for being easily angered and stubborn.

At the very least, by understanding each other's personality, both of you can recognize each other's strengths and weaknesses. Thus, things that can cause problems due to age differences can be avoided when trying to unite views in a relationship.

As a Complement, It is a Must to be Open Minded to Represent One's Worth

The third criterion that cannot be ignored as a complement is worth. This criterion is often identified with one's quality both physically and mentally. In addition, worth is also closely related to faith, education, occupation, competence, and behavior towards each other. In this modern era, worth can also be applied with an open-minded attitude. Such an attitude is needed so that both of you can approach all problems as part of personal growth. Don't be mistaken, even if your partner is much older or younger, personal growth is a process that will continue to occur!

Don't let differences become a problem. Especially if both of you have committed to being ready to spend your lives together. On the contrary, all differences need to be aligned with open-minded thinking and approached wisely. After all, no one is perfect, right? However, the essence of living together is complementing each other's shortcomings.

Well, if you can apply the concept of 3B, age differences will no longer be a barrier to achieving better chemistry in a relationship. To get inspiration and motivation, you can watch the web series presented specially by Closeup entitled #SpeakUpForLove.

In addition to presenting interesting romance topics and being played by top artists such as Bayu Skak, Abibayu, and Lawrance Anzela, the story can be very relatable to what you are experiencing, especially for those who have problems with age differences in their love story. Don't miss the airing schedule, stay tuned by following CloseupID on Instagram to always get the latest information about the web series.

After watching, don't forget to apply the messages confidently with #SpeakUpForLove using Closeup toothpaste. Hopefully, the harmonious relationship you dream of with your partner can be realized soon!

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