Confused When Asked When You Will Get Married on Eid? Check Out 7 Polite Yet Casual Ways to Respond

Kapanlagi.com - Every time Eid arrives, the tradition of going back to one's hometown is often accompanied by a question that can make many people feel uncomfortable: When are you getting married?. Although often regarded as mere small talk, this question can become a burden, especially for those who have not yet found a life partner.

This question seems to serve as a kind of social test for those who feel unprepared for marriage or have not found their match. In various cultures, including Indonesia, this question is frequently asked without considering the feelings of the person being asked.

However, there are several wise ways to respond to this question without adding pressure. Here are some response ideas that can help you avoid tension when faced with this often uncomfortable question.

1. Elegant and Wise Ways to Answer the Question 'When Are You Getting Married?'

1.Use Humor
Using humor can be an effective way to lighten the mood. Light and non-offensive humor can make conversations more relaxed. For example, you could joke by saying, 'Still waiting for the wedding package promo, who knows there might be a 90% discount' or 'Wait until the Avengers disband first, so that nothing is more spectacular than my wedding!'. Make sure the humor you use is appropriate for the situation and does not hurt others' feelings.

2.Provide General Answers
If you do not want to give a detailed answer, you can choose to provide a more general response. For example, you could say, 'No definite plans yet, but please pray for me!' or 'Insya Allah, when the time is right.' This way, you show that you appreciate the question without having to share personal information that you may not want to disclose.

3. Explain Your Personal Plans
If you feel comfortable, you can briefly explain your future plans. For example, 'Right now I am focusing on building my career first, marriage will definitely follow.' This statement shows that you have clear life goals and that marriage will be a part of your life journey at the right time.

4. Focus on Relationships with Family
You can shift the conversation to another topic that is more relevant. For example, you could ask, 'Wow, how is Uncle/Aunt's family doing? Hope they are always healthy!' In this way, you create a warmer and more familiar atmosphere while also showing concern for your loved ones.

2. Elegant and Wise Ways to Answer the Question 'When Are You Getting Married?'

5. Asking for Prayers

A simple yet effective way. You can respond, 'Just pray for me, hopefully I'll find the right match soon.' This shows humility and appreciation for their concern.

6. Using a Counter Question

Respond with a friendly question and shift the topic of conversation. For example, 'Wow, how is your business doing, Sir/Madam? Hope it’s going well!' Make sure your counter question remains relevant.

7. Answering Ambiguously

If you do not want to provide details, you can answer, 'God willing, soon,' or 'Just pray for me.' This gives an answer without having to explain further.

3. Common Mistakes When Answering 'When Are You Getting Married?'

Facing questions like 'When are you getting married?' can indeed be a challenge. However, there are several things you should avoid to keep the atmosphere harmonious:

• Lying: Giving dishonest answers will only create problems later on. Honesty is key to avoiding unwanted situations.
• Being Too Defensive: Responding with a defensive or angry attitude will only worsen the situation and make others feel uncomfortable.
• Completely Avoiding the Question: Although it can be difficult at times, try to answer politely and wisely rather than completely avoiding the question.

Answering this question requires sensitivity and emotional intelligence. Choose the approach that best suits your personality and situation. The most important thing is to maintain good relationships with family and stay calm. Remember that marriage is a personal decision, and you have the right to determine when the right time to marry is.

4. Questions and Answers Related

What should I do if my family keeps asking when I will get married?

Try to respond patiently and use one of the methods mentioned above to keep the atmosphere positive.

What if I feel pressured by this question?

Remember that you don’t have to provide a specific answer. You can respond lightly or change the subject of the conversation.

Should I share my wedding plans with others?

It depends on your comfort level. If you don’t want to share, just say that there are no definite plans yet.

What if I already have a partner but there are no plans to get married?

You can explain that you and your partner are currently focusing on other things before getting married.

(kpl/mni)