Venna Melinda Shares About Being a Single Mom, Wants Her Children to Avoid Repeating Her Marital Mistakes

Venna touched on her past marital failures, which make her even more eager for her children to live in a healthy marriage.   "As a single mom, I want my children to not repeat my marital mistakes. So, they have to learn from their parents' experiences," said Venna when met in the Mampang area, South Jakarta, on Tuesday (29/4/2025).

Venna acknowledges that raising children as a single parent is not easy. She has to take on a dual role as both mother and father for Verrell and her younger brother, Athalla Naufal.   "I have to be both a mother and a father. But I also have to maintain my nature as a woman. That is what is difficult," she said.

Venna believes that open communication is the key for her children to still feel they have a complete parental figure, even though their parents are separated.

"I always tell Verrell, 'If you want to get married, choose a partner you can communicate with. Not just someone who is beautiful, but someone you can go through tough times with,'" she said.

She also emphasizes the importance of a strong mentality in building a household. According to her, marriage is not just about love, but also about responsibility and mental resilience.   "If it's just love but you're not mentally prepared, the household can fall apart. I've experienced it," she continued.

As a single mom, Venna admits she always tries to be a comfortable home for her children. She doesn't want them to feel a lack of affection.

"What’s important is that the children know their mom is always there for them. I don’t want them to lose the figure of a mother in every aspect," Venna emphasized.

Venna also admits she often discusses relationships and marriage with Verrell. She wants her eldest son to choose a life partner wisely.   "Verrell is very open. We often have long conversations. I'm glad he can talk about anything," she said.

Although she doesn't want to interfere too much in Verrell's love life, Venna still wants to provide guidance so that her child doesn't make the wrong choices.   "I can only pray and give advice. The decision is still in Verrell's hands. But as a mother, I will always be there for him," concluded Venna.