After 30 Years of Marriage to Adam Suseno, Inul Daratista's Story That Never Hides Household Conflicts

"Yes, I never feel embarrassed if my household has problems. With two heads, there are bound to be disagreements. But what matters is not the fighting, but whether it can be resolved or not," said Inul when met in Mampang, South Jakarta.

Inul stated that she and Adam Suseno have gone through many storms in their marriage since they got married 30 years ago. However, both always strive to resolve issues with a cool head, without outside interference.   "Yes, we are used to arguing, being silent with each other, sometimes getting upset. But Mas Adam and I always agree that problems are solved at home, and should not be taken outside," emphasized the singer of the song Buaya Buntung.

According to Inul, marital conflicts are not something to be feared or considered a shame. On the contrary, she believes that conflicts resolved well can make the relationship even stronger.

"Yes, I think that once it's resolved, it's done. No need to bring it up again. Sometimes it can even be funny to remember. The important thing is we learn from it, so it doesn't happen again in the future," Inul said.

Adam Suseno, who is next to her, nodded in agreement. He stated that the key to a lasting marriage is not the absence of problems, but mutual understanding and the ability to compromise with each other.

"Yes, I just give in when my wife is sulking. In the end, we always make up. The important thing is not to let emotions take over continuously," said Adam with a small laugh.

Inul added that she always tries to be open with her husband. Even when there are small grievances, she prefers to express them directly rather than keeping them bottled up.   "Yes, I am quite talkative. So if something is bothering me, I tell Mas Adam directly. Rather than letting it fester and creating an uncomfortable atmosphere. So our communication is just honest and straightforward," Inul explained.  

At the age of their marriage, which has reached three decades, this couple feels grateful to be able to take care of each other and learn from one another. Inul stated that maturity in facing conflicts is something she has learned over time.

"Yes, I am now much calmer. Not like before when I was easily triggered. Because I know, a household is not about winning or losing, but about making each other happy," Inul expressed meaningfully.

With that openness and honesty, Inul hopes her marriage can be an inspiration that strong love is actually formed from a long process and the ability to resolve conflicts together.