Need to Control Emotions, Here are 6 Effects of Parents Often Scolding Children

Kapanlagi.com - Reflexively, parents often scold their children when they make mistakes. Moreover, parents feel tired all day with a series of daily activities, making it difficult for them to control their emotions. As a result, the unbearable irritation is often vented to the child by frequently scolding and even shouting at them.

However, do you know that scolding children will have a negative impact on their psychological well-being? Because the growth of children depends greatly on the upbringing from parents.

Although parents believe that scolding their children will make them better, this habit should be avoided. Parents should not underestimate this matter. It is the angry attitude of parents that can leave deep wounds in the child's self. Although anger is normal, it becomes abnormal when expressed excessively, especially to the point of physical actions, it will certainly have many negative effects on children. What are they? Instead of being curious, let's directly see the complete discussion below.

1. Children Become Angry and Defiant

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Basically, children will imitate the habits of their parents. Therefore, parents must behave and set a good example. However, if parents have a habit of frequently scolding their children, this habit will be imitated by the children, even as they grow up.

As a result, the child will grow up to be an angry and defiant person as a form of release. Usually, the child will do this to people around them, including their friends. The anger and defiance are also a form of self-defense because they are often scolded.

2. Decreased Self-Confidence in Children

Usually, children who frequently receive harsh treatment from their parents will tend to become fearful. This fear and decreased self-confidence are because the child feels unappreciated and always wrong in the eyes of their parents.

It is not surprising if the child continues to feel insecure and always afraid to try new things because they are afraid of making mistakes. Therefore, parents should be wiser in controlling their emotions due to their child's mistakes, and it is good to guide the child with gentleness.

3. Children Will Grow to be Closed Individuals

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Furthermore, the habit of parents frequently scolding their children will make them have a closed personality. A closed personality, or commonly known as introvert, is a psychological condition where a child is more reserved and tends to withdraw from their surroundings. The child is reluctant to express their feelings or the problems they face, afraid of being blamed.

However, a good parent is someone who can be a friend and a place for the child to confide in. If parents cannot be a confidant due to their tendency to get angry, the child will also shut themselves off from their surroundings.

4. Decreased Trust in Parents

A child who is frequently scolded will develop immunity. Instead of having a positive impact, parents who frequently scold their children make them unwilling to listen to anything their parents say, even if it is something good. Why is that? It is because the child's trust in their parents has decreased.

As a result, the child will seek solace outside of the home, where they feel more comfortable and happy in life. It is not uncommon for the child to fall into an environment with loose social interactions. This is done by the child as a form of release.

5. Children Become Selfish and Stubborn

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Parents who frequently scold their children continuously will make their children grow up to be selfish and stubborn. This negative trait arises because the child tries to protect themselves and hates the feeling of being hurt by the outbursts of anger from their parents. As a result, the child will grow up to be someone who enjoys thinking about themselves and will not accept input from others.

6. Children Become Easily Stressed

Constantly scolding a child every day will have a negative impact on the child's development. This will affect the child's mental state and cause them to constantly think about their mistakes and be afraid to confide in their parents. As a result, a child who keeps their problems to themselves will also become easily stressed and depressed. The more often a child is yelled at, the more they will drown in their sadness and become easily stressed.

Those are the series of negative impacts of parents who like to scold their children. Therefore, it is important for parents to always be wise in giving reprimands and to control their emotions. Hopefully, this is useful.

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