15 Meanings of the Grave Visiting Tradition for Artists, as a 'Report' Moment and to Pour Out Longing - Still Accommodating Citizens Who Request Photos

Gewa, Glenn Fredly's daughter, attached a small note to the tombstone. The note read, “Gewa. I love you Dad.” Mutia Ayu wrote a small letter at the grave. They also scattered jasmine flowers and watered them with a bottle of water. Visiting graves becomes a moment to express love for both of them. 

The SBY family always visits Ani Yudhoyono's grave together. It's not uncommon for them to visit as a full team, from children to grandchildren. Every time they visit, everything is prepared as comfortably as possible. There are large tents, chairs, tables, scattered flowers, and even flower arrangements. The moment of the visit feels like a family gathering. Nevertheless, AHY does not hesitate to accept photo requests from people around the grave.

Alvin Adam always brings Jasmine flowers that are often not scattered but arranged in such a way that they form a heart or a simple box. He also hides the identity of his late mother by placing a sticker on the gravestone when posting on Instagram. For Alvin Adam, visiting graves is more than just a way to miss loved ones. “Visiting graves is not just a tradition to express longing for those who have passed away, but also a reminder for all of us that when the time comes, we will each return to our origin with our own 'provisions',” Alvin wrote on his Instagram.

The birthday of the late Ustaz Jefri became one of the moments when Umi Pipik visited his grave. During the visit on April 12, 2025, which was the birthday of her late husband, Umi Pipik used this moment to remember the message of the deceased. "Your tests will not stop like an arrow; many will be aimed at you, so be a strong shield, do not let go of that shield, and continue to be patient. Do not ask for human compassion but ask for God's mercy, who never discriminates in His love," read the message from the late Ustaz Jefri.

Cythia Wijaya, the wife of Ifan Seventeen, visited the graves of her parents with her children. The visit is a regular activity that is always done before Ramadan and during Eid. She hopes her children remember their grandparents. "The children come to pray and always remind them that this is their grandmother & grandfather so they will always remember," she wrote on Instagram.

Nadzira Shafa, the wife of the late Amer Azzikra, brought several white rose buds while visiting the grave. For Nadzira, the visit is a moment to remember the time spent with Amer while hugging the gravestone. "Actually, being alone is really nice too. But sometimes I miss being hugged when I cry. I miss being listened to when I tell stories. I miss being patted on the back when I can't sleep. That's why I still often stay up late," she expressed on Instagram. 

Anggi Pratama and Samuel Rizal visited Stevie Agnecya's grave ahead of Eid this year. They brought their children along. Together, they scattered flowers and recited prayers for the late Stevie. The atmosphere was warm and familiar, considering both are men who were once Stevie's husbands. It can be said that the visit reflects their harmony.

Bunga Citra Lestari almost always sprinkles a lot of red and white roses all over Ashraf's grave. She also does not forget to bring orchids complete with their pots. She often visits the grave accompanied by her husband and child. The visit is proof of how she has not forgotten Ashraf even though she has remarried.

Raffi Ahmad visited his father's grave on the day of Eid al-Fitr. No flowers were scattered, but he remained solemnly praying with his wife, mother, and siblings. During the visit, Raffi was surrounded by locals. Many took pictures of him from a distance. He even greeted them and entertained requests for photos and handshakes. For Raffi, visiting the grave is a moment to remember and pray for family members who have passed away. “On this blessed Eid day, let us take a moment to remember and pray for parents, siblings, and relatives who have preceded us. Although they are no longer physically with us, our love and prayers will always be a connection,” he wrote on Instagram.

Before Ramadan, Ririn Ekawati visited the graves of her parents and her late husband Ferry Wijaya, who passed away in 2017. She visited with her younger sibling, husband, child, and manager. According to Ririn, this pilgrimage tradition should not be lost. 

Angelina Sondakh brought a bucket of fresh flowers complete with a pot when visiting Adjie Massaid's grave. The pilgrimage became a moment for a 'report'. Yes, Angie reported on the condition of her children and her life progress. Just like during last Ramadan, she reported to Adjie that she had just opened a boutique called 'House of Angie'.

During the Batu regional elections in 2024, Kris Dayanti visited the grave of Bung Karno in Blitar - East Java. She also visited her father's grave in Bali. Kris Dayanti mentioned that this was done to ask for blessings.

Ilham Habibie made the pilgrimage moment a part of his political communication when he ran in the West Java regional election in 2024. Together with Ahmad Syaikhu, he visited the grave of BJ Habibie while reminiscing about the values of the late leader.

Anggy Umbara and Nayla D. Purnama visited Vina's grave before the filming of the movie VINA: SEBELUM 7 HARI. They were positively welcomed by the family. According to Anggy, they needed to pay their respects and pray for the late Vina so that the shooting process would go smoothly.

Ussy Sulistiawaty used the pilgrimage as a moment to express her longing. During the visit, Ussy dressed more modestly, complete with a hijab. She brought flowers in a vase and arranged them on the grave.